It's very simple. You need to accept who/what you are and be the best you that you can be in every way possible, and that means fixing flaws that are fixable. Let's take you for example: You don't have to keep your hand gloved unless it's for a medical reason and is necessary in that way, and being bad with children is a flaw you can fix. The way to be good with children is to be a fully grown adult; that's the only requirement. The people who are bad with kids are bad with kids because they haven't grown up fully.

It's especially bad with girls because you don't just accept the kind of body you have; you always want somebody else's or a feature of that body when in reality all you should be doing is making yourself the best you can possibly be, on the outside and the inside. Guys who aren't clueless pick up on that kind of stuff, believe me; I do. Of course that's not a problem for you but I'm sure girls who aren't clueless pick up on it too.

 

ok just so you know in 90% of my life I am awesome, I have a gift with the girls
a great career that I have worked on since leaving school and now my own home.
I am in charge of countless things.

so when your trying to fix "my problems" know that I have seen and done a hell of alto more then you know
and as for my insecurities it what is underneath the glove a reminder of something that happened not long ago a moment that took away something i loved its not something you get over

kids I just hate kids its not really an insecurity more a hang up
kids are weird admit it

and while you have done all that you should know that i never told you the thing im insecure about more then anything and you cant do anything about it
remember your still just a kid compared to allot of members here
now I don't need a young strait white male trying to fix my problems

 

Your fail here was so epic that it circled you and donkey-punched you in the back of the head. I work with kids five days a week and they like me and tell their parents they like my class because I relate to them on their level. In other words, I play and joke with them like a kid.

Only someone who doesn't have a goddamned clue about working with kids would say something so ridiculous. But that's par for the course for you, isn't it, Monkey.

No banana for you.

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Bad news travels fast!

 

Errrr i agree with you there Kids don't relate well to Serious adults and everything because they clearly aren't mature and don't understand so when you deal with kids it needs to be on there level. If that makes since.

 

All of that is possible without fully growing up, which is why the majority of the world who can afford to hasn't fully grown up.

Kids are kids. They're not anything but young people who deserve the best upbringing/opportunities in life they can get.

Na I'm definitely not. Compared to a lot of members here, I'm a wise old man.

You told me that everybody has insecurities and you can't fix them and all of that, and I told you that's not the case. Nobody's trying to run your life, just telling you that just because you've falsely accepted things as not fixable when they clearly are, doesn't mean that's the case or the way everybody is or should be.

 

Lol there's a huge difference between being able to relate to kids and not being a fully grown adult.

I play and joke with kids whenever I'm around them and am actually very good with them and a very good influence on them. However, unlike you I know that working with/helping kids is about more than relating to them.

Furthermore, the kind of shit you're talking about only lasts when kids are young. Things aren't so easy once their needs become more complicated/harder for you to meet if you're not a fully grown adult, and that's where people like you fail.

 

How do you hate kids?

Kids are wonderful and they love unconditionally.

And they bring a joy that can't be touched by other things.

 

Sorry, Monkey. You don't know what you're talking about.

-S-

 

Oh but I do. See you're not mentoring kids; you're entertaining them. They "like" you because your class is entertaining/easy and you're just as immature as they are. Working with kids means actually teaching them valuable life lessons and helping them grow. You're not capable of that.

 

Just wondering, how do you know how to work construction and to work with kids when you don't have a job and never have?

 

No, I don't mentor, I teach them English. And yes, situations are different. But the mechanics are the same. You need to be able to engage them.

But I wonder what you mentor them to do? You who have accomplished exactly nothing.

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Haha, quite fitting for you isn't it. Well, long as you look to that, you're good I suppose.

 

You need to be able to engage them but you also need to be able to lead by example and impact their life in a positive way. That's what good teachers do.

I never said I mentor kids but what the hell I'll throw you a few bones. I teach kids/younger players to keep their focus and drive and work hard, to do as best in school as they possibly can so they don't limit themselves, how to handle situations, etc. I teach kids/players things I've learned or picked up and different moves/things to do to improve. I teach post players post-moves and how to play better defense, just to name a few. I've helped every single one of my friends with something at one point or another because I was the only one who could. Wherever I go, if I can help someone, I do. Even on this forum I'm the same way and I've tried to help quite a few people who I felt really wanted help and who I felt I could help because I'd been in their shoes. I've been an unofficial volunteer pretty much my whole life and pretty soon I'll be an official one, not that it's any of your business.

Yup. It was weird though cus the profile as a whole(it was a combination of a bunch of different astrological sign types, zodiac, chinese, numerology, etc)showed how the contradictions between them make me who I am(or at least how they do according to its opinion) and it was exactly on point. I'm not really into that kinda stuff either. You should do one though; they're pretty cool.

 

Ah, so you're not even mentoring, but your telling people how one should mentor? You not teaching, but your assuming to tell a teacher how one should teach? You show them how to play basketball? A game? Which, don't get me wrong, games are important after a fashion, team work and all that, but you're... what? A basketball tutor? Put in a couple of hours at the Y on the weekends? Or is it even that formal? Do you just walk down to the local neighborhood court and toss out tips?

Like I said, you don't know what you're talking about.

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Lol keep talkin, Toys'R'Us Kid.

 

I can't for the life of me think what you think is so funny, Monkey. Once again you've been shown to be a complete tosser. You went on a little mini-rant about mentoring, only to then admit that you don't mentor anyone. You most likely have never mentored anyone and even if you did, what could you mentor them about? How to live at home? How to be unemployed? How to cut grass and shovel snow? How to sneak in girls through a window (I know it's an old quip, but it's damn funny), how to blame your problems on a system of fake ass wannabe douchey suburban cake eaters who don't know shit about the real world or the hard life or growing up working middle class blue collar and how they keep decent Mics like you down?

Damn, but your shit is tired.

-S-

 

Damn, but quit coppin' insults and talk like the good little suburban white boy 90s kid you are.

For real dude, you're in your 30s and you have done absolutely nothing with your life. Everything good that's come into it, you fucked up and yet you blame it on everybody else. You claim to be a sociopath because it's an excuse for your immature ass, douchey, spoiled brat behavior. You try to bully people and then turn into a giant pussy crying about how you're so wrongly persecuted and expecting everybody to give you the common decency you never show them. You're a wannabe atheist who is all about image because it's an excuse for your life and how you are and it's easier than actually dealing with the fact that you are an insignificant person living in a world that could cease to exist without any warning at anytime. You blame religion and all of that other shit because it's yet another excuse for you to not take responsibility for yourself and your own life. Every time you do anything at all in your life, you feel the need to make it out to be more important than it really is because it's all about you and your image. You follow a guy(Dan Barker) who went on the Daily Show recently and claimed that Mother Teresa wasn't a good person or the humanitarian that she was and that she was just a PR person for the Church, and that on top of that, her becoming a stamp was part of a large conspiracy and the Church controls the world and the government and bla bla bla.

That's just for starters.

 

What are you even talking about? That's just your thing, eh? When you have nothing to say you just tell the other guy his insults suck? Besides calling you a tosser, I didn't actually insult you. So are you saying that I copped tosser? I haven't seen it used anywhere in this thread and due to my little counting spree last night, I have read pretty much the entire thing. All 8 pages, sadly.

Is that all you've got? Really? A 'your insults are stupid, you stupid copy-cat!'

Here's some advice, monkey spunk. When that's all you've got to say, you're best just sitting quiet.

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I edited cus I felt like smacking you in the face with reality so you might want to re-read it.

And no, "Damn, but your shit is tired". You stole using "tired" in that way from me. You never said that once before I did. I used to say that all the damn time, either by itself or as "old and tired". It is not a suburban white boy term.